The Wife’s Perspective
For our first wedding anniversary, I wanted to do a play on the traditional anniversary gift of paper for my husband. I came up with the idea of a boudoir shoot, and I was pleased with my husband’s response when I shared my gift idea with him (I believe “Oh my god, yes, do it” was his exact reaction). My own thoughts on the subject were less enthusiastic even though the gift had been my idea. Like so many women, I have a complicated relationship with my body and self-esteem. As a plus sized woman, I am used to critiquing my body and searching for (and finding) flaws. I don’t think of myself as beautiful or glamorous. When I looked on the various boudoir websites, the pages were filled with gorgeous women in stunning lingerie. None of them looked like me. I knew my husband would love and appreciate any pictures of me, but for me, I was worried that I would look at the pictures from the boudoir shoot and pick my body apart like I do in front of the mirror. I decided to do the boudoir shoot, but I firmly believed that this was a gift only for my husband.
My experience at Blush was magical and transformative from the very beginning. I arrived at the studio feeling apprehensive and tense, but the hair and make-up artists were incredibly welcoming and friendly. The artists immediately put me at ease, and I felt like I was relaxing with friends. They were focused on making me look and feel like the best version of me. They did a fantastic job! I didn’t even recognize myself in the mirror; they took all the aspects I loved about myself (my eyes and lips) and transformed them into a sexy woman.
I then met the photographer, Tracy. She was so enthusiastic and positive about the shoot. She helped me select outfits that made me feel sexy but also comfortable in my body. As we started shooting, Tracy was always commenting on how beautiful the shots were or how great my posing was. At the time, I greatly appreciated her feedback, and I thought it was so great of her to be so positive and affirming when I was sure I probably looked terrible. Tracy provided guidance on how to position my body so as to flaunt my assets and to draw the attention away from areas of my body that I was more insecure about. I trusted Tracy to make me look my best, and as the shoot went on, I began to feel more confidence in myself and my body than I ever have before. It was such a change in my self-esteem. I had a wonderful time at the shoot. When I got home, I told my husband that I didn’t care what the pictures looked like because the experience had been so empowering and changed how I thought about myself.
A week later, Tracy sent me two photos as the first look. I was at a conference giving a presentation on body positivity, which was ironic considering my own history with low physical self-esteem. When I saw the pictures, I immediately thought that Tracy had made a mistake and sent me someone else’s images. I couldn’t believe that the gorgeous woman with the stunning eyes and the curvy body was me! For the first time, I looked at a picture of myself and didn’t immediately pick out the flaws.
The next week, my husband and I went to the photo viewing. At that point, I had convinced myself that the two pictures Tracy had previously sent were the two best pictures from the bunch, and the rest of the photos would be fine but not stunning. Once again, I was very wrong. We watched the slide show of images from my shoot, and picture after picture left me speechless. I realized that Tracy hadn’t been lying or trying to flatter me during the photo shoot, she was telling the truth! Each of the images looked like they belonged in a magazine; I looked like I belonged in a magazine! What I loved was Tracy not only took pictures that flattered my figure, but she also captured my spirit. Every photo was a photo of me at my very best: strong, soft, sexy, and sensual. For the first time, I understood what my husband sees when he looks at me because I could see it in myself.
I will be returning to Blush Boudoir for another shoot in the future. I cannot thank Tracy enough. The photos were wonderful, but to me, they were secondary to the personal transformation in how I think about myself and my body. I hope that my story and my pictures will encourage other women who may feel less confident in their appearance or who don’t look like the models in magazines to take this opportunity. You’ll see some beautiful pictures, but you’ll also see a beautiful person: you.
The Husband’s Perspective
After my wife returned from the shoot, I asked her how it went. To put it simply: she was floored by how amazing the experience was. She felt great throughout the shoot, and she remarked that Tracy was excellent at providing direction to capture the best shots and making her feel good about the shoot. What started as a gift for me ended up also being a gift for herself because of how much fun she had. We then scheduled a viewing to go through the pictures.
At the viewing, Tracy started a slideshow of the best pictures, and my jaw dropped. My wife looked absolutely stunning. The hair and makeup artists did an amazing job transforming my wife into a supermodel, and it showed in the pictures. I have been telling my wife how beautiful she is for several years, but after seeing the wonderful boudoir photos that Tracy took, she now sees it herself, and it is a great feeling. I highly recommend choosing Blush for boudoir photography.